The Peace of God

Have you ever told your story without realizing that you just did? Well it sure happened to me I was telling my friend why my parents got divorced one day. I began to go into detail and something happen… I was beginning to talk to my own fear of not having a marriage. Why am I thinking about not getting married? Am I afraid to be in a committed relationship because of what I experience and seen what happen to my parents? From what I remember cheating was an acceptable act in my household apparently. When you weren’t getting what you need in the marriage it was OK to receive it from someone else. The saying goes “what one man or woman won’t do another one will” was real in the flesh. So here I am believing that marriage is beautiful and desirable by God. It is definitely what I want one day. I will never be alone for the rest of my life. However I have realized that I am not ready for marriage yet. There are some underlying issues that I need to address before I can commit myself to a unconditional marriage. I refuse to be broken and have doubts about not have a healthy relationship.

Over the years I have come to know that before you can experience what God has for your life, you must first evaluate yourself. God has called us to be great , to be amazing , to be the best of everything that we do but so many times we ignore those things because of our own self. “I call that having anxiety attacks!” Everyone has their own personal terrorist(enemy) that tells you what ifs? “What if you will never get married?”, “what if you never make it.. you know your parents got divorce…”

However, the enemy is not after your dreams, desires and goals, it is after your peace! The enemy will take anything that will effect your peace.

So I had to question myself, “If peace is the treasure that the terrorist attacks, why do I not value it?”

I knew God was telling me something.. the only thing I knew how to do was lean on God. I went to the source (THE BIBLE)

Philippians 4:6-7;

Do not worry or anxious about anything, but in everything (every circumstance and situation) by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, continue to make your (specific) request known to God. And the peace of God ( peace which reassures that heart, that peace) which transcends ALL understanding, stands guard over your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Whoa.. this is it! The truth shall set your free. I share this with you all because I know we all worry about our lives. What we have, or don’t have. But God! He wants us to get this and get it good—-

“Understanding what we do have, instead of focusing on what you don’t have is what changes your circumstances.”

I WILL NOT WORRY ANYMORE!

I HAVE THE PEACE OF GOD!

Thank you all for letting me share my thoughts. Now let’s pray.

Father God,

Thank you for your word that is so true and knowledgeable. We ask that you forgive us for worrying and doubting your will for our lives. Help us to be more understanding of what we have and grateful for the peace that has been given to us. We are making our request know to you Father. We want to be better, wiser and teachable. We want our gentleness to be known to all people. Help us Lord. The world needs it. Thank you for gifting us grace. We don’t know where we would be if it wasn’t for your grace. Right now, we rejoice and give you reverence for the things that you have done! We love you today God. We honor you and we give you praise forever and ever!

Amen

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The gift of Sex

Is Sex a gift from God? The answer is yes. Sex was designed by God our creator as a special gift that allows a husband and wife to express oneness in intimate and exclusive love and to share in his plan for procreation (production of offspring). I know you may be wondering;  “Ok. if sexuality is a gift from God how could it possibly be so wrong if you are not married?” that is a good question.  In Genesis 2:18 God says; “it is not good that a man should be alone, I will make him a help meet for him.”  Therefore, sexual drives are the most natural high human bodies can experience. The downfall is that those sexual drives can be destructive when they are uncontrolled or misused.  I’ve learned that any intimate sexual relationship outside of monogamous fidelity within the covenant of marriage is condemned as sexual immorality. The fact that God says a man should not be alone he is simply telling us that he did not create sex for our own  personal satisfaction. When a man and woman come together, a chemical reaction takes place in the human brain. Sex is regulated and purposeful. When God said “therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife and they shall become one flesh.” ( Genesis 2: 24-25) This means having unity between the two. Two souls intertwined to one soul, one bed, and one family to glorify God.  Earlier I mentioned that sex was created for procreation because God says; ” Be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth..(Genesis 1:28)” Sex was also created for comfort because by sharing yourself with your spouse it becomes a beautiful satisfaction that is deeper than ever. In Proverbs 5, it talks about God’s view of sex in marriage as being exciting, erotic, intoxication and a loving partnership. WOW, SEX IS DEEPER than you think…..

Yes, it may feel good and all that for a moment but its real topic that becomes misconstrued a lot.!  When I think back at the times I had sexual intercourse I wish I can take every moment back. It only lead to distortion and emptiness in my life. To actually believe that I had romantic nights of passion would be an understatement.  What really transpired was that I became ungodly soul tied to someone and emotional distress.

Can I get all the way real???  Although, the “world” ( social media, coworkers, friends, family members etc,) thinks SEX SALES and it can be exercised as a stress reliever or just because you’ve been dating someone for a long time its cool to have sex.  No, No, No, No and NO. The world says its okay to have sex but according to Romans 12:2; ” Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” As believers we are expected to exercise self-control in overcoming improper sexual impulses by the power of the Holy Spirit.  It’s not going to be easy but there is nothing too hard for God and I believe that it can be done. I’m doing it by faith and work because knowing what I know now, I want to live a life that is pleasing to God. If I can do I know you can too!

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Prayer to God:

Dear Heavenly Father,

Please guide my footsteps to take the right path in this life. That I may take every step closer to your will. Walk beside me Oh Lord, and as you will never forsake me, help me to not go astray. Father, break every change that has joined these ungodly soul ties to me. Cleanse my soul Lord. Make me brand new in your sight. I ask that you grant me discernment to recognize these ties that are not like you. I thank you Lord for what you have already done. Have your way in my life.

In Jesus Name Amen.

 

 

Let’s talk about Sex!

Well, I did some soul searching everyone and I have determined that sex- fornication [engaging in sexual activity with a person outside the communication of marriage] is a sin against your own body.  The bible says in 1 Corinthians 6:13; ” Now the body is not for sexual immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.” I enjoyed sexual acts for a long time but now I realize that it was my way of trying to grab fulfillment from somewhere.  God is definitely equipping me and shaping me into the woman that he has called me to be. Trust me honey, it is not easy to admit to a problem or struggle and recognizing the change that needs to be made. Knowing there is a problem makes you want to break down and cry for your soul to be renewed and cleansed.

If only I would have known the significance if staying pure {remaining a virgin} back when I was 18 years old! I consistently remembered my mother telling me to ” wait until marriage” however, I never understood why that was important. Now, there is no one to blame here because I knew what I was doing at the age of 18. I wanted to have sex. Everyone was talking about it, dreaming about it and was doing it. lol — “it was a natural thing” “just make sure you use a condom if you are going to do it.” I had to find things out my way, but God had a plan and he knew where I was going.

So here I am – I am learning to “Flee from sexual immorality” For every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. [1 Corinthians 6:18] What this means is that your body is now contaminated. Physically, it can reap emotional distress that leads to clouding your judgement. Once you comprehend that your body is a temple to God, you will understand that you should always glorify him in your body and in your spirit. Remember we were bought a price and I thank him everyday for what he did for us. He died for our sins so we can be restored and forgiven for the sins that we commit among ourselves. To God be the glory for that!

I will leave you with a scripture that had totally changed my life. ” But I say to the unmarried and to the widows; It is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry.  For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” ( 1 Corinthians 7:8-9)

 

Prayer to God:

“Father God, forgive me and heal me from the sexual sins which have kept me separated from your love. Help me to recognized and accept the power Jesus offers to restore me to wholeness. Help me to be meek and humble that I will flee from all influences which cause me to sin. Thank you Lord for what you are doing in my life. Strengthen me oh God with your holy and powerful word.  Amen

Self- Worth

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You must know how to love yourself before you can love anything else. Knowing that having self worth is the greatest accomplishment any human being can have. You must know that you are fearfully and wonderfully made by God (Psalm 139:14)  He made us in his image; so that we must know who we are and what we are worth. Sometimes we doubt our self worth/ love in the relationships — whether with our family members, friends, or significant others. We get caught up in the world, the social media today because so many things can influence you. Insecurities of your image – thinking you are too big or too skinny. Then you have these doubts that you aren’t good enough. You aren’t smart enough — to start your own business, to audition for that role , become a mother. But at the end the of the day…. You can do all things through Christ!!!

YOU are who God made you. No matter what you look like. You are beautiful inside and out. The biggest challenge is knowing and believing it for yourself!

Believe it !!